You and your ex-spouse finalized the details of your divorce in Texas, even the custody arrangements for the children you have together. That is all well and good, but have you started learning how to shift your communication style with your now-co-parent?
HelpGuide offers tips to lay a proper foundation. Do what you can to provide peace of mind for your kids and yourself.
Ask, do not demand
Take the honey-sweet approach when it comes to making requests. Always shape your desire as a question rather than an outright demand. Wrap your requests in polite manners so the other parent does not grow defensive or agitated.
Pretend you are business partners
If you and your ex-spouse have an especially difficult time getting along, switch to a more business-like approach. That means keeping all communication 100% professional and free of personal feelings. Before sending an email or text message or speaking, pretend the other parent is a colleague.
Listen and hear
Rather than listen to interrupt or kick off an unintended argument, listen to hear and absorb what the other parent has to say. It may help to share your interpretation of what you heard, to better ensure everyone is on the same page. Miscommunication and a failure to communicate can spark unnecessary friction.
Focus on your kids
Rather than an ex-spouse, you may find it easier to view the other parent as just that, a parent. Doing so allows you to keep your focus on the well-being of your kids. Your children’s mental health is sure to benefit from your ability to keep your eye on the prize.
This information is only intended to educate and should not be interpreted as legal advice.